In my case, I have found through therapy that it’s about lack of confidence in myself to protect myself and heal from the pain of a failed relationship.
Once I started telling myself I’m stronger than I think I am, and that love is a risk worth taking, I’m a lot more confident putting myself out there.
You are presenting what appears to be a disingenuous narrative, with cynicism at its core.
Some of us are in love with amazing people, but we struggle with severe trust issues. It’s a very serious problem for us, even if it may not be for you.
I mean, I have zero fucking empathy for Trump or Elon because they are fucking nazis and there needs to be extremely severe punitive measures taken against them because that is the only consequence wealthy narcissists understand.
I understand why they are that way, it does not mean they just get a pass for it.
Call me crazy, but I think some of the biggest fucking bastards in human history simply needed someone to listen to them and help them learn how to self-regulate their emotions as children.
They’re all so consistently bitter and unhappy narcissists, and they drive away their loved ones because they have no idea how to listen and introspect. They also always try to lure others in with money because that’s what the only things they personally care about.
When someone criticizes my behavior, I legitimate think about it and I ask them what I could do differently that would make them happier to be around me, and I take that shit seriously even if it hurts to hear.
Sometimes it’s completely bogus, but if it matters to them, it matters to me, and that’s all that matters.
If I had a time machine, I would try to find a way to stop Reagan rather than Hitler.
I think other time travelers will cover Hitler, so I think we should diversify our efforts in stopping other evil bastards around the world.
I worked as an associate for a public accounting firm that does not ever advertise itself, because we specialized serving ultra wealthy individuals and you could only engage us if you knew of us through such circles.
One day, our office got a call from the personal assistant to someone very wealthy who is known for abusing ketamine, asking for an engagement on a very unusual and complex tax situation. A call was set up to discuss the scope of the engagement, because the partners have always been very particular about what clients they will take on, because really wealthy individuals are often very unpleasant, stressful, & frustrating to work with.
Apparently during the call the assistant was patronizing, like we should feel flattered that we were chosen by m’lord, and demanded non-negotiable terms that we would conduct our work exactly as told with no questions asked. They had even sent their own engagement letter for us to sign with them ahead of the call, and it was completely absurd.
The partners patiently explained that is not possible, as that is not how this type of professional relationship works, and declined the engagement.
The assistant was losing their mind, shocked we would turn such an opportunity down. They offered even more money and even some compromise, but the way they initiated the interaction set the tone to expect throughout the professional relationship.
I was very impressed by the partners in the sense that I knew they were incredibly greedy people, but they are so fucking intelligent and had such a great instinct to avoid clients that were going to end up costing way more money than they brought in, because us associates would absolutely refuse to deal with bullshit because it was already a super stressful job, and we were way too talented and incredibly expensive to replace if we walked off.
The self restraint must have been legendary, and exactly the right call, because all the professionals that do end up accepting end up getting embroiled in costly lawsuits and getting thrown under the bus.
Anyway, I hated that job and I wish I that quit sooner than I did. I got such bad burnout, I developed PTSD and now I prefer just living like a hobo rather than go back out there.
PS: Fuck capitalism and fuck Amazon. I refuse to buy anything from them ever again. Cancelled my credit card and told them to go fuck themselves. Fascists.
If I had to choose, I would rather take my children to watch Sinners.
Emotionally immature people are more often highly insecure and will blame others instead of introspecting and examining their own attitudes and actions.
They are very unhappy because they expect others to make them happy and they get angry when they fail to receive validation, since they do not how to do that for themselves.
Pathetic.
See the really big feet and the long beaks?
These are baby Rails:
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I’m in my 30s, and in my opinion, it is rare to reach this age without having experienced something traumatic best discussed with a therapist.
My ex rejected therapy and it was a huge pain in the ass to be used as his personal therapist, so I made sure I wouldn’t go through that again by only dating those who appreciated the value of therapy.
Therapy is expensive, but it’s also sometimes freely available in college or through Employee Assistance Programs (EAP).
When I made a Hinge profile, I stated I was not interested in any men that were not progressives, nor would I be wasting my time on any men that had never gone to therapy.
I got SO many messages from the ugliest, fattest, and most misogynistic motherfuckers just shitting on my completely reasonable request. Many of them also would mention how much money they had, completely ignorant of the fact my base salary was significantly larger than their own.
It really saved me a lot of leg work narrowing down on quality men to talk to, and today I’m happily together with a man that goes to therapy, cries at sad movies, and whom I spoil with my paycheck.
That just got slapped down in court as well.
I understand that we need to do more than to just sit and watch, but upholding the rule of law is still important.
How does it work? Never heard of it.
They’re not disagreeing, nor withholding support because of a word, so your argument does not apply.
Politely pointing out that a word is dehumanizing is completely valid and we should all strive to be more compassionate with our language.
It does matter.
Not should anyone, honestly. They are a travesty.
To clarify, my comment specifically is about superficial movie reviews, critiques, & recommendations.
Criticism within the context of a movie discussion, presuming everyone involved actually engaged with the movie, is part of healthy dialogue & idea exchange.
I’ve had my point of view changed plenty within such discussions, and brain dead people do not usually bother to participate in such forums so it’s a win-win.
I think blatant cash grabs are fair game for harsh criticism.
Movies are made to tell stories that the directors and the producers feel inspired to tell. And unless they are a Marvel or DC movie, they aren’t always meant to appeal to every audience member, and it’s childish to think that movies should always cater to your every whim-- especially when people are so goddamn quick to judge things others worked really hard on so goddamn harshly.
And before the “but mah money, tho!” shit-- that’s fucking capitalism, and not unique to movies.
Not every movie is going to be to your taste, and that’s cool. What’s not cool is shitting on a movie just because you didn’t like it or it didn’t make sense to you.
Reviews are meant to help you choose which movies you want to bother watching. Using the terms in the green column is helpful in giving the reader a sense of what to expect from a movie while avoiding a negative personal impression.
The red column is very reflective of modern online critiques:
Harsh. Impulsive. Thoughtless. Black & white.
Often made without fully engaging with whatever is being critiqued:
“I haven’t watched the movie, but based on the trailer I bet it’s trash.”
“I hate Darren Aronofsky movies because they don’t explain what is happening and they’re stupid.”
“I heard this movie was great, but I watched it and it sucked. Therefore, everyone else is wrong.”
We can adapt to climate change as a species better if each of us personally take the steps to mitigate its impact and learn to live with far less consumption than we currently do.
For example, making consumption changes and politically boycotting major corporations has been life-changing for me. I’m far less stressed about money because now that my tiny home is clutter free, I go out of my way to avoid buying stuff I don’t really have a need for.
Every little effort in the right direction counts. It doesn’t have to be everyone and everything.